Last week ( February 10, 1999 my mother Shirley M. Baker-Femia passed away. It was one of the more painful experiences I have
endured. Our relationship was abusive, but the strength of our love overtook any anger, or mistrust we had been holding.
For this past month or more I have spent countless hours at mom's bedside, comforting her through this exit from our world.
Many thoughts and memories trickled through my mind, as sadness was a never-ending theme-causing tears to fall at random.
One of the most prominent memories was the way Mom helped all Canadians, and people across the world, especially women and
the printed media. Mom was one of the strongest women I have ever known. Through her strength mom led the first and longest
newspaper strike in the history of Canada and the world.
The Oshawa Times Newspaper Strike lasted for a year and was the first major media walkout ever headed by any woman. Her actions
changed our work force in this country.
This had a trickle effect across the entire world. Mom was the first female union president voted into office in Canada.
Along with this major changes were
made to: our Canada Pension Plan as the payments out were raised considerably, women were included for the first time, pregnancy
leave with pay was implemented, our basic wage was raised, and many doors were opened for women in
the work place as well as strengthening the common male position in our work place.
In mom's memory, while my sisters, brother and grandchildren stayed by her bedside consoling her, I wrote this poem:
Borne defenceless, helpless and innocent,
Natural death is similar,
Watching you leave today mom,
I see the Child,
Instead of the woman,
But you've been no child for decades,
Yet your child shines through,
Desperation and pain,
Limp responses to each familiar voice,
But still a small response,
Towards a feeling of love,
Naturally like an innocent,
Weak and frail, slow and shaky,
You reach for that love and touch with peace,
Then you fade into relaxation,
As your head rests on the pillow,
Until the next familiar voice,
Caring touch or pangs of pain,
Make themselves present,
Once again, slow movement,
Towards the last dabbles of energy,
You gasp to hold lightly and say goodbye.
The point here is to say that love and forgiveness towards one another can and does heal the worst damages of abuse. Mom and
I say and believed this. With all our issues, arguments, abuses and pain we managed to forgive and loved one another to the
end therefore aiding in the grieving process greatly.
Please think about this and heal you family!
What Is Forgiveness?
From: A Course in Miracles
Forgiveness recognizes what you thought your brother did to you has not occurred. It does not pardon sins and make them real.
It sees there was no sin. And in that view are all your sins forgiven. What is sin, except a false idea about God's Son? Forgiveness
merely sees its falsity, and therefore lets it go. What then is free to take its place is now the Will of God.
An unforgiving thought is one which makes a judgment that it will not raise to doubt, although it is not true. The mind
is closed, and will not be released. The thought protects projection, tightening its chains, so that distortions are more
veiled and more obscure; less easily accessible to doubt, and further kept from reason. What can come between a fixed projection
and the aim that it has chosen as its wanted goal?
An unforgiving thought does many things. In frantic action it pursues its goal, twisting and overturning what it sees
as interfering with its chosen path. Distortion is its purpose, and the means by which it would accomplish it as well. It
sets about its furious attempts to smash reality, without concern for anything that would appear to pose a contradiction to
its point of view.
Forgiveness, on the other hand, is still, and quietly does nothing. It offends no aspect of reality, nor seeks to twist
it to appearances it likes. It merely looks, and waits, and judges not. He who would not forgive must judge, for he must justify
his failure to forgive. But he who would forgive himself must learn to welcome truth exactly as it is.
Do nothing, then, and let forgiveness show you what to do, through Him Who is your Guide, your Savior and Protector, strong
in hope, and certain of your ultimate success. He has forgiven you already, for such is His function, given Him by God. Now
must you share His function, and forgive whom He has saved, whose sinlessness He sees, and whom He honors as the Son of God.
Healing Our Inner Child
12 STEPPIN' FOR
THE INNER CHILD
We Believe in the Unity of Spirit
and We Know that Love
Comes in Many Colors
We Honor the Humanity
of Diversity... We ARE Family
Wounds present in many different ways that reflect the way we see ourselves and our lives.
We try to find ways to cope with the fear, the anger, the depression, the shame, the guilt that affects us and we cannot seem
to reach or release.
In order to release those negative self-messages, we need to make a commitment to release, recover and heal ourselves to live
a full and beautiful life.
We need to do whatever it takes to provide a safe, healing place within ourselves...a Sanctuary...to learn to let go of fear
and anger and pain that we still carry from the past so that we can begin to know love.
These wounds may be presenting through us in a number of ways, to draw our attention to the need for healing.
As a result, you may be experiencing a number of symptoms such as:
Fear Anxiety Panic Attacks
Addictions Alcoholism Anger Rage
Self-Abuse Self-Harm Self-Sabotage
Abusive Relationships Depression
Low Self-Esteem Co-Dependency
Victim of Crack or Crystal Addiction
So what do we do?
We listen, we learn and we allow ourselves
to be healed.
It DOES take courage to heal... It takes courage to step up and turn ourselves over to be healed. If we could do it ourselves,
we wouldn't need to ask for help. And we DO need to ask. We DO need to give ourselves permission to be human, to be honest,
to be real, and to heal those wounds that have directed our actions for so long...
When you are done with the way things have been and are ready to make a commitment to your own healing,
take the next step... yo
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